My Top Five Regrets

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11 min readMar 4, 2022

I have recently read David Pink’s “Power of Regret” and I fell in love with the concept of “reflect, but don’t ruminate”. David emphasises that “no regrets” is BS (his words), as regret is an emotion, just as happiness, sadness, disappointment or anger are. I am not going to review the entire book here (February in books coming soon), but there is one point that David makes inspired me to write a blog post on regret. This point is the distinction between disappointment and regret.

David states that the key difference between the two is that regret involves personal responsibility for the action or the inaction that led to the emotion. In contrast, disappointment is caused by external forces. This distinction inspired me to consider what are the top five hurtful events or circumstances in my life that I hold personal responsibility for.

I encourage you all to make similar reflection yourself, as I really feel it gave me the power to act differently in the future, hopefully to the benefit of myself and others.

Reflect, don’t ruminate :)

Here we go.


#1 I wish I gained my current level of self-confidence and self-esteem ten years earlier.

If you met me in my adult life, you won’t believe this, but I used to be a very unconfident, self-conscious, anxious kid. In fact, I was not even able to go to any store…